I didn’t hold grudges against those who abused me, but I did hold onto hurt. I wore the pain as a merit badge, as a reason why you and everyone else should love me.
I did receive some pity. But no one showed me love because of it. Least of all myself.
There’s a time to focus on loving one another, and that time is now. But everyone is not easy to love, we have to work at it!
A well known Biblical principal is “Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child”. What about GOD’s Rod? Have you known it? Pharaoh certainly did, and I also had one such occasion.