Marriage! What an institution God ordained for His people! Ups and downs and all-arounds!
A marriage of opposites – We are an odd couple apparently. Peter and I compliment one another – or rather I compliment, and Peter talks about trains! After twenty-five years of marriage, I still don’t know what Peter is speaking about at times. I thank God he is my friend, and we have a laugh together.
Marriage happened for us in our thirties. Peter’s dad was delighted and my dad just happy someone had asked me to marry them!
I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. Psalm 32.8
August 1st, 1992, I remember it as though it were yesterday. We had an incredible homemade wedding. When we disclosed our marriage plans, so many friends offered to help make the day special by gifting us with their talents. A lady who worked for me in the office I ran, did the catering and made a spectacular cake.
The Christian choir that I sang in learnt new songs for the wedding ceremony. A kind friend spruced up his car for my journey to church. The priest we were close to who had moved parishes came back and performed the ceremony.
The Registrar and photographer were also friends. the hall where we were having our reception looked beautiful, having been decorated again by friends. Another person from my workplace played in a band did the evening entertainment.
We could not have felt more loved as family and friends shared our special day.
A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. John 13:34-35
Little did we know what the years ahead were going to provide. We have survived storms that might have crippled us if Peter and I didn’t believe in a God who Overcomes. From losing our first born to dealing with depression, chronic sickness, redundancy and money issues. Not to mention Peter’s father coming to live with us when two of the children were little, and I was pregnant with the third, coping with his dementia.
We loved and watched our three children grow up. We struggled with issues of bullying, depression, suicidal thoughts, major surgery, chronic pain and low self-esteem. All tearing at our hearts as we prayed for deliverance.
Giving God the glory
The storms are still not over. However, our celebration of twenty-five years will be for the grace and mercy God has shown us during our time as husband and wife. We could not have done it without His love being central in our marriage. Indeed at one point when all felt lost, we could only see the parting of ways as the solution.
Thankfully, God came through and gave us renewed strength to carry on together. To Him, we give the glory for our unity. God continues to overcome in our daily lives as we live each day at a time. Our three children—-now teen and young adults—-continue to bless us as they strive to break through the challenges in their own lives.
Isaiah 43:2 (KJV) When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
Thank you, Peter, for accompanying me on this sacred journey.
Have you experienced God overcoming in your life?